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Location : London, England.
Sometimes we come across decisions that are hard to make because these decisions can affect you for the rest of your life. These chanced moments are opportunities that normally come only once in a lifetime. If you let that special moment pass and you don't act upon it, it will never pass your way again. The biggest sin is to do nothing. So the pressure builds because you have to try and make the right decision. For example, if I had graduated and left straight back to my home country without ever trying to apply for a job here, I would live the rest of my life not knowing. That kills me. To know for sure, leaves your heart at peace. Like this decision I face now...to leave the UK or not. I've been really really really wanting to wrap up my SECOND attempt to secure a job here and call it a short vacation due to the heartbreaking disappointments I've been facing ever since I arrived. This is where I will tell you a remedy I have been using for a long time...
Whenever you face difficult situations that doesn't seem to have an answer, you ask yourself...
"What would I have decided today if I were to die tomorrow?"
"If I die tomorrow, what would I have done today?"
Things will seem a lot clearer after that. You know what to do. Don't mean to sound morbid but yeah, death is a subject most of us avoid dealing. However, it is real and it is certain. If you made a decision that continues to be a mental splinter in your mind, don't waste your time. After all, if you don't leave this world tomorrow, you can live the rest of your life back in your comfort zone. Most of the times, your answer will be the right one without any regrets or the risk of one because you did it. And most of the times, you have time on your side. Of course, there are few situations that aren't as simple as that but trust me, most scenarios can be answered using this simple question. Live life everyday as if it is your last. As if you knew you were dying tomorrow. If it wasn't your last day and you go on to live the whole cycle of life, as long as you follow these simple rules, you will definitely lead a full complete life...of passion! I have always been a passionate guy. If you don't do something with passion, you might as well not do it at all.
If every person in this world could just stop and think, search their feelings and ask themselves this question, this world would be a much better place.
Think of some of the difficult decisions/situations you might have had lately and ask yourself that question. Why risk a regret when the power to have none at all is within your grasp?
Posted by Ripcord at July 5, 2005 03:49 AMAgreed.. although a lot of times I'm lacking in the courage that you have.. I have tried my utmost to live my life without regretting anything, although most times those situations involve love.. To me, the thing I think to myself; "What's the worst that can happen? I won't die" and I believe I'm strong enough to go thru it all because it will never be so bad that you give up on it all.
Posted by: Cyn at July 6, 2005 02:54 AMFinally the blog is getting cheerful..did not know what to write on your earlier comments :( but i know u will get thru it quick..Cheers :)
Posted by: Merv at July 6, 2005 04:24 AMStick at it.
Remember me and Si in canada? We gave up and came home when the cash ran out, and there are still moments when I wish I had tried a bit harder out there.
Awesome post this one. If I were to die tomorrow, I would be contacting all the people I know to say sorry, thank you and I love you. I will say all the things I want to say before I leave. I will tell them all the things that only I know so that it won't be buried with me. And I will not stop loving all those people dear to me :)
I'm glad that your post this time is much more cheerful than the previous ones. Glad to see you happier :)
Posted by: Ashe at July 6, 2005 01:57 PMedwin, another cracking log, thank god you keep this blog going.... cheeers.. it keeps me thinking...
Posted by: justin at July 6, 2005 07:07 PMcyn : nice to see u are the optimist u usually are. =)
merv : this one's taking longer than the rest but i believe i've hit the bottom. so, now the only other way to go is up.
someone else : that's the sort of situation i think i cannot live with.
ashe : you took the words right out of my mouth...that is what i meant. so now you have to behave as if you knew you were leaving this world tomorrow and do all those things you meant to do but were just afraid.
justin : cheers mate. too bad we can't catch up on the upcoming snowboarding trip to tamworth because i'm sure there's a lot to catch up. this blog is going down soon though...
Posted by: Ripcord at July 6, 2005 09:57 PMon the flip side, true as it may be the thought of living with no regrets... the conundrum deepens when we don't die and every day keeps coming. without a balance, we constantly face the latent danger of finding ourseleves out in the cold, alone and hungry many years later.
as a suggestion, as the years fly by, i've learnt that a healthy balance to the 'Live life everyday as if it is your last' motto is to wage it against "what if i don't die tomorrow?.."
go figure...
Posted by: grim at July 7, 2005 01:07 AMgrim : 'what if i don't die tomorrow' leaves you always taking the safer option and leading an ordinary life. the choice is up to the individual, to be extraordinary or ordinary? leave the basics intact but never be afraid to...jump.
Posted by: Ripcord at July 7, 2005 05:13 PMgood entry. I agree.. this are once in a lifetime opportunity.
I remembered I used to make that decision. Stay in Oz or go back?
In the end, I made the decision of staying and I am happy with the outcome.